Tuesday, January 3, 2012

Lower than a rapper's pants

Those of you who know, I wear many hats. Too many.

One of them, I'll refer to it as my "bonnet," caused a monumental shift in Candyland...land...a few months back. In September, my employee position at "bonnet" was changed into an independent contracting position with fewer hours and instead of bi-weekly pay, I now receive direct deposit a month and a half ahead. In other words, I will work the end of December through [approx] January 23rd, but won't get a check until the very end of February. And so on.

With the recent birth of Baby S, things have gotten even harder. From pregnancy, he's been a needy baby. It started with the loss of fluid near his head causing me to be in and out of the hospital (= monumental bills piling up), then he died at birth. Thankfully was brought back to us but it was not without issues. He's had problems with different formulas and medications which they attribute to reflux. After we got our sweet Sully home from the hospital, his condition has only worsened.

It's been a pain in the arse. But moreso, I feel bad for him.
We've been in and out of the doctor's office and hospital for testing, he's been on different medications and formulas and even to the chiropractor. And because of his spitting up and projectile vomiting, the poor baby feels as though he's hungry all the time, therefore, we're going through formula like it's toilet paper. I don't know if that makes sense but we're going through a crapload. Haha. I made a funny.

Also, when a baby S eats, the end result is a pee-filled or dirty diaper. Thank BERT an old friend gave us boxes of diapers back in July or we'd be using whatever t-shirt we could pin up on the kid right about now.

The loss of pay, along with Baby S's problems have had a dramatic effect/affect/effect/affect/whatever on our finances. In fact, this Christmas was the lowest we've ever been. Despite my dear husband working as much as he could and me doing the same with 2 jobs (they BOTH pay monthly...) and raising two kids, the only way we could give them a Christmas at all was by doing the unthinkable. No, not that (no one would pay for this anyway). I've gotten loans on all my jewelry, including my beloved wedding band. It stings to be in such a position. Waiting for tax time so we can get a refund to pay everyone off, popping anxiety meds every time a bill comes, wondering where our next meal will come from...

We just can't get ahead after all that's happened.

I'm telling you this because I've nowhere else to turn. I don't consider you bloggers or even friends. You're family. Everything I've gone through, you've been there with me. You've been there for me after two miscarriages, for every New Medicine post-bliss ramble, but mostly, the times in between. When I felt as though no one was listening, there you were.

But this is different. I need something else. Any other time, YOU KNOW I'd happily raise money for the women of Ghana, or the AFSP and TWLOHA. I'd even give you my marrow. Just ask. Seriously.
 I have no money, but if you ask me for a dollar, I'll dig through my cushions, count my change, until I find one to give you. I debated doing this but I'm so desperate right now, I have nothing to lose. We owe so many people...people who can take our car, kick child #1 out of school, turn off our electricity, garnish our wages...we're sinking.

I'm here to strike a deal.

 While I've had to stop accepting MS and queries for critique due to time, I still have the following to offer! Anyone who makes a small (miniscule, even) donation to the charity of Candyland via paypal will receive one or all of the following:

-A creepy public love letter
-The word HUG on a piece of paper that I will mail to your door
-A New Medicine sticker. Because I have a trillion.
-A humiliating picture of me posted on the web
-Admiration
-Undying love and respect
-GRATITUDE

**ALSO: Guide to Literary Agents  and Children's Writers & Illustrator's Market Editor CHUCK SAMUCHINO has come to me with a generous offer! Get your query or synopsis edited by the best in the business! He's offering his services at a discounted rate of $40, donated to me. I will then email Chuck your email address and he'll connect with you and edit within 1 week. If you need help with your query, this is a steal by a pro. Only 8 available. If you are interested, please put CHUCK somewhere in the donation notes. Email me with questions.

A little about Chuck: Chuck Sambuchino is the editor of Guide To Literary Agents and Children's Writer's & Illustrator's Market (both Writer's Digest Books). He is the author of the writing books Formatting & Submitting Your Manuscript, 3rd Ed. (2009) as well as Create a Writer Platform (Fall 2012). He is a popular presenter at writers conferences nationwide and runs the Guide to Literary Agents Blog (guidetoliteraryagents.com/blog), one of the biggest blogs in publishing.

He is also a humor book author, with his 2010 book How To Survive A Garden Gnome Attack being featured in Reader's Digest, USA Todayand The New York Times. The film rights were recently optioned by Sony.**

This is post not a joke, as much as I wish it were. Donate .01 to 1,000,000. I don't care. If you choose to read and move on, I won't be offended. In fact, I'm going to move on after I post this. What a stupid post. I don't deserve a handout, and I sure don't want one. Make me work for it. That, I can do. Name your price.
Send all pennies to candaceganger@yahoo.com and sparkles will combust in front of you. If you prefer, loan me your pennies and I can pay you back when the dust settles. You help me and I promise, when you need me, I will help you.

Isn't that what family's for?

I was going to delete this post after 48 hours but with a few encouraging emails I realized...my family needs all the help we can get right now...so...48+ hours later, here I am...


Candylanddesperate. OUT.


P.S. A few people have asked for a more direct way to help out. If you prefer snail mail, email me and I'll give you my address. Also, without being a weirdo, here's a Paypal button that's easier to click on instead of search.

150 comments:

Matthew MacNish said...

Text me your snail mail address, because, yaknow, they kicked me off Paypal for being too awesome.

I'm serious. Text me your address.

Jamie Wyman said...

Going to send you what I can. Will try PayPal first, but they hate me. Also, I'm going to spread the word to the Tribe (tribeohana.com) and see what we can dig up. <3

Emily White said...

Oh no!!! Of course, OF COURSE I will help! You seriously need to look into WIC (Women, Infant, and Children), though. When my husband lost his job a couple years ago and we had two children to care for, WIC literally saved us. It's not welfare or anything like that (because trust me, I understand if that's not a direction you want to go). It's all funded by a Non profit organization.

Now I'm off to help spread the word! :) :) :)

Jess Hartley said...

Sent a little. Tweeted/Google+/FBed a little. Lit a candle and am hoping good things for you. Let me know if there's more I can do - jess@jesshartley.com

Abby Minard said...

Oh Candace, I'm so sorry. I'm glad I came back to blogging when I did. I will gladly help out! Can you email me your snail mail address? I'm not very good with paypal...I think I have an account but it's been so long I have no idea what my username or password is, lol.

Abby Minard said...

Oh Candace, I'm so sorry. I'm glad I came back to blogging when I did. I will gladly help out! Can you email me your snail mail address? (abbyminard@gmail.com) I'm not very good with paypal...I think I have an account but it's been so long I have no idea what my username or password is, lol.

Robyn Lucas said...

Sharing post.
Giving.
(((((hugging)))))

February Grace said...

Will be speaking to my spouse the moment he gets in the door for lunch about PayPal (the account is in his name).

I am grateful that you posted this.

You are loved, and it might not be as much as I wish it could be (where's my magic 'make the medical bills disappear wand', dammit, I know I had it somewhere...) but hopefully every little bit will add up.

I have to read the post again to look for it but if you get a second could you email your paypal email address to me at fireworksflowers at gmail dot com? It'll save time.

Love to you and the lil ones, geez, I feel awful that I didn't know you have gone through so much with Sully. Give his head a little kissy for me.

xoxo
bru

PS wish I'd have known about Christmas too- would have gladly given Santa a little 'help' for a toy or two...

February Grace said...

D'oh- nevermind, sweets, I see the email addy in the post upon second reading.

It's that whole 'visually impaired' thing got me again. Sorry bout that.

Something will be sent before the day is out. Hopefully long before then. As I said, I need a quick consult with somebody here before I do it.

Also sending you love and hugs, wish you could feel them. I have, in my own past, done the pawn the wedding ring to buy food thing- it's a feeling I wouldn't wish on anyone...

xoxo
bru

anaquana said...

I'm here because of Jess Hartley. I don't know you nor had I ever read your blog until today, but your story touched me. I know what it's like to be scraping together pennies, to exactly portion food out to last X number of days, to worry that things won't stretch quite far enough.

Now that I'm in a position of financial stability, I am more than willing to pay it forward to you as so many of my friends, family, and loved ones did for me.

Stay strong and good luck to you.

Mia @ Artisan Artifacts said...

I know that you are an incredibly busy lady, but I was wondering if you would be open to cloth diapering. It's truly easier than it seems and much more economical. It just takes a load of laundry per day or so that way you'd always have diapers.

I have many friends that make cloth diapers that would be more than happy to send you everything you need to get started.

At the very least, it would give you an option to fall back on in the event of a disposable shortage.

Hope we can help & wishing you the very best.

Dianne Gardner said...

PayPal likes me. I've been there done that...had 7 kids, most while I was in poverty. Ask them...we even had a tumble weed for a Christmas tree once. Put my junk jewelry on it for decorations.

Shannon O'Donnell said...

Oh, Candace, my friend!! My heart breaks for what you're going through right now. Stay strong. Your blogging family loves you dearly and we'll do what we can. I'm proud of you for being brave enough/strong enough to write this post. (((hugs)))

Sarah Ahiers (Falen) said...

dude. i would've totally sent you money for nothing in return. Seriously. But i know how hard it is to actually ask for money from friends and family, and i've been in that situation before and how much better you feel when you're able to provide something in return.
I would love a full MS critique from you. I'm off to send you some money. As much as i can spare.

February Grace said...

Sent... please make sure you look for it! Couldn't think of asking anything in return. Just hope things will be going better soon. Want you to know my spouse is the one that insisted on the amount...he sends his best to you and the family, too. The picture of the kids really got to him, just wish we could have done more.

much love
bru

Eric W. Trant said...

Just sent a nibble of cash via paypal. Thank MacNish for posting to FB, because I'm behind on my blogging duties these days! I have a 1-yo boy myself who's keeping me busy, plus a book and work and I have no room to complain, do I.

I sure hope things settle out for you in 2012. Keep the faith. We define ourselves not in the good times, but the bad. I usually define myself with beer. Lots of beer.

But for you, dearest, by Gotten Himmel, keep being Candy-ful.


- Eric

ps: It's "effect" by the way... ;)

Creepy Query Girl said...

Buggin the hubs to transfer some moola over to paypal as we technically speak:) We are a family Candy and I hope things start looking up for you guys. It sounds like Sully has some kind of severe reflux. Not fun. Send me the deets to your paypal account- I could really use a MS critique when I finish this R&R for 'the agent':)

Katie said...

Money sent! Stay strong, friend!

Kelly Polark said...

I know it took a lot to post this, girl. Sorry you guys are going through such a hard time. This economy truly sucks. You are such a giving person; your blog friends are happy to help. Sending a little somethin' your way in the mail this week.

Bethany C. said...

Pay Pal hates me--as I hate it, but I'd love to send a little something.

Can you please send me your address?

Email me at: boognb@cox.net

thewannabeknight said...

Hi, I found your post by accident through... I can't even remember what social media now. But I know what it's like to grow up poor, and I will pray for you and your family. In the meantime, I've donated a little bit. I hope it helps!

Tristina said...

I've been here (or similar) too many times to count so I'm sending what we can scrape together.

Anne Gallagher said...

I know we don't know each other, have never met, but I'm good friends with Matt McNish so there's a reference. I don't do paypal, but I would like to help, so if you wouldn't mind sending me your snail mail address I can whip something through the USPS.

Also, it sounds like your baby had the same thing mine did when she was little. I know how hard it is to watch him eat and then cry. I don't know if you possibly can, but try ORGANIC milk. 2%. It's double pasteurized (or homogenized or something). Whatever they take out of it, allows there not to be so much protein, so much gas, so much whatever to enter into the baby causing so much distress. It's wicked expesive, like $4- a half gallon, but I swear by it. It saved me a lot of heartache when mine was a baby. I think Walmart might even have a generic brand for a little less money. Just make sure it's organic.

my email is anne.gallagher.writer at gmail dot com. Please do send me your address.

Lenny Lee* said...

hi miss candace. for sure you got my allowence for for the rest of my life if you could need it. i gotta help take care of my little brother sully and my little sister lillianna and mr eric and you. for sure all my familys gonna send some money. did you see how much people love you! wow! how cool is that. for sure i love you the most. :) im gonna call you real soon so we could talk
...big hugs from lenny

T.D. McFrost said...

I love your light humor in such a dark time. I am almost to tears because I know it must be hard--especially with a needy child.

I will be more than happy to assist you, no doubt about it!

This is just a test Candice. I don't mean to get all religious on you, but the man upstairs is giving you a final trial so that you will truly be deserving of the reward that is to come.

God bless you and your family. ^_^ <3

Miranda Hardy said...

Matthew sent me over. I'll head to PayPal in a few seconds. Of course, it'll come from my real name: J Jackson. Hope the worst is behind you and it gets better soon.

Susan Kaye Quinn said...

My heart hurts for you and your family. Matthew sent me over too, and I'm so glad he did. Please take good care and I'll be praying that things get better soon.

Cyndi said...

I am absolutely speechless at the outpouring of love and support for Candy. Seriously, it makes me not so saddened by the state of our world. There are still good loving people out there!

Matthew MacNish said...

"Without being a weirdo."

As if that was possible. No sister from another mister of Tim's could be anything but(t) weird.

Kristen Lippert-Martin said...

Sending you hope, courage, prayers, thoughts, sleep, peace, and a little bit of money. We all need help sometimes and you'll pay it forward someday.

Kimber said...

I came here from Matthew's bog as well. I am so very sorry for what your family is going through. I sent a little something through Paypal. I so wish that I could do more, but as a single mom living on food stamps myself it's extremely hard. I will post your story on my blog and Facebook. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Wine and Words said...

Came over from McNish. I've been where you are...on food stamps with two small boys and husband making 13,000 gross one year. I remember making dinner for $1.26! I was so proud. Anyway, I was just reading a journal of those years and it all came flooding back. You've got a humble yet forthright spirit about it. I'm going through my own cycle of crap but I have some money in my PayPal account. Unfortunately they sent me an email saying its frozen for 21 days because someone cancelled an eBay transaction (which they didn't cancel of course) etc etc etc. so I'll try the PayPal button and see if some of the funds can still be used or if they froze it all...assholes! Just in case, please send me the snail mail. I'll do what I can. I don't want anything from you but do hope and pray for peace and a respite from the financial stress.

- Annie

Karen Amanda Hooper said...

*big hugs*

"This too shall pass."

Hang in there and know we're all here for you until it does. <3 The only thing you need to do to pay back my contribution is hug and kiss that beautiful family of yours.

Brinda said...

Matthew McNish sent me over. I'm so glad I read your blog post. I've sent you something. Keep your chin up. :)

Wine and Words said...

Ha! What do you know! The powers at Paypal actually let me use MY OWN money (some of it anyway). Donation is under poboxams@att.net. I never use that email as its full of junk. Hang in there woman! Strength and self reliance are underrated. Humility an transparency and being able to reach out your hand in both directions is what makes you special.

- Annie

Cherie Reich said...

I'm so sorry to hear about what's going on. *hugs* And you can definitely count on your family here. :)

Becky Mahoney said...

Here from Matthew's post. Though you don't know me, I hope my contribution helps you just a little. Best of luck to you and your beautiful baby.

February Grace said...

I posted a link back to this on my blog just now- am kinda hoping maybe you'll leave this post up a little bit longer than originally intended so more people can see it (though I totally understand if you don't want to, dear one.) Also been thusly Tweeted.

xoxo
bru

Talli Roland said...

Done, with love. xx

maine character said...

I'm sending a little cash, and a lot of love. Give Sully a hug for me.

Nicole MacDonald said...

I was super excited to have sold two books this morning :) so I'm sharing it with you. Gotta love the ease of paypal. Wishing you and your family well *hugs*
Damsel in a Dirty Dress

Caledonia Lass said...

We got your back, sister. ;)

Stephen Parrish said...

I'm in, and commenting just to let you know that it was Bru who sent me.

Jemi Fraser said...

*hugs*

I'm ready to help too and sending your family all kinds of well wishes. good luck.

Marsha Sigman said...

Done via Paypal and happy to do so. Came over by way of Matt.

Just so you know...it will get better. It always does.

In the meantime, I want one of those HUG papers.

Christine Rains said...

Email on its way. New follower here sent by Matthew. We mommy writers have to stick together!

Marta Szemik said...

Done what I could.
So lucky to have friends like Matt.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Many, many (((((((hugs)))))))

Bethany Elizabeth said...

You are one of the bravest people I know. I don't get to read blogs too often, but every time I read your blog, your honesty and courage shows through. After having given so much to help others, you deserve every cent. I don't know what much else I can do to help, but if there's anything at all, consider me at your disposal. I honestly can't imagine the difficulty you must be going through, just to fight to get out of bed another day, but you are more than amazing, and we all love you. things will get better -
"All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of thing shall be well."
But in the meantime, I'll be praying for you and the whole Candyland clan. I'm sending love and hugs your way.

Angela Ackerman said...

Send me your snail? I won a US Visa card awhile back for 20 dollars and being in Canada, I won't be able to use it unless I go on holiday. I would much rather send it to someone who needs it. :)

Hugs--I can only imagine how difficult this is for you. I'm so glad you posted about this.

alackerm@telus.net

Angela

Lydia Kang said...

Tweeted your link. I sent something too, but it's from a funny name you won't recognize. Sending an email soon.

(((((hugs)))))))

Jennifer Hillier said...

Candace, sending you my best vibes. Please check your PayPal account - if you see something from Steve Hillier, that's me.

BIG HUGS. Please hang in there. Sending you prayers. xoxo

Emma Lauren said...

Candace, sometimes there are just no words. I'll email you for your snail address in a minute.

Ainsley Shay said...

your post was forwarded to me by miranda hardy. your story touched me and i sent what i could via paypal (it'll come from gabquette@yahoo). your humor throughout the post captivates what a strong person you are.

i wish the best to you and your family.

ps - my nephew experienced very similar "symptoms" to you son's, he too was rejecting formula, projectile vomiting, always hungry, etc.all dr's kept pushing them away - saying to try different formulas...but she persisted and knew it was something more serious, it ended up being Pyloric Stenosis and after an operation to his stomach - he's perfect...it sounds like you've had your share of tests but just thought i'd share.

Nicole Ducleroir said...

My heart's in pieces for you and your sweet family. Don't lose hope -- you are so loved in the blogging community and I can't imagine the joy you bring to those lucky enough to surround you in the real world. Help is on the way!

Don't hesitate to keep us posted and be sure to say when more help is needed. If you don't end up doing another post like this but still need support, email me!! You have my deets, but just in case: nicoleducleroir(at)gmail(dot)com. Maybe there's something in my closet or garage that you can use, or a specific gift card I can send. Whatever else I can do to help, I'm here for you.

Much love and positive vibes,
Nicole

ODell @ Book Twirps said...

Wishing you and your family the best. I've been there.

akoss said...

I know how it is to deal with a newborn who has a lot of battles to win and the crazy bills from the hospital.
I don't know you or your blog. I only found out thanks to twitter.
I really want to help (for nothing in return) but can't use paypal.
So snail mail will have to do.
Please hang in there.

EconomicDisconnect said...

I really hope things get easier for you and your family. Take care.

Lydia Kang said...

Please keep this post up for a little while longer. The interwebz sometimes takes time for news to spread, and then the link will be gone.

Going to FB now...

Mara McBain said...

I'm another of those you don't know, but wants to help. Nicole Ducleroir sent me your way. I'm a short story author that just finished my first novel. More importantly i'm a wife and mother that knows what it's like to watch the bills pile up, see the propane tank run dry, and fix meals because they are REALLY cheap .. not because they sounded good.

We are struggling, but your story reminded me that there is always someone out there that needs the help more than you do. I sent a small gift your way through PayPal from April Burger/Irish_Hussy69/SamborasGG. LOL Not sure which way it shows up for you. Either way, I wanted you to know I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and wish you and your family the best of luck!

Kira D said...

Courage is not the absence of fear, it is standing up and doing what you need in spite of the fear, especially where your family is concerned.

This post shows me you have amazing courage!

I don't know you nor have ever met you, but I have been where you are. My family and I survived on the strength of friends, family and sheer stubbornness not to give up.

Don't stop hoping, or believing that it will get better. I hope what little I sent helps keep that belief alive.

Best of luck to your family!

Kelly Dexter said...

I'm so sorry for the bad that's come your way. It burns me up when good, awesome people are faced with such shitty times. I don't want to sound like a total goober, but from the time I stumbled across your blog, I've been in total awe of your frankness and humor. It's hard to believe that a person on the interwebs, whom I've never met, can come across as so honest and genuine. There have been times when you've posted things that have really helped me in a way I didn't expect to find in my blog travels, and I'm so happy that this kick ass community is rallying around one of their own.

You're going to make it through this. You're too awesome, and you have to much great shit to do. Thanks for remaining YOU in the midst of this crapstorm. I'll keep you, your hubs, and the kiddos in my thoughts.

Melodie Wright said...

Found this post from Matt's blog - don't know you but like the others, have been where you are. It sucks!!! But it also can be one of the brightest times of your life, looking back. (Looking back, I say, not in it.)
Agree with the commentor who said Sully's conditions sounds like severe reflux. A friend's child had similar issues - turns out he was allergic to mom's milk, as well as several formulas. It took months to figure it out - they had to go w/ a soyless/milkless alternative if I remember right.
Anyway, headed to Paypal now to see if I remember my p/w. Praying for you!!

Julie Musil said...

I echo Talli's words, "Done. With love." I heard from Lydia Kang...I'm so glad you posted this. I know it couldn't have been easy to do. Just know that I've said a prayer for you and your lovely family. Stay strong. This too shall pass.

Angela M. said...

Actually, chica, you do deserve a hand up. When I'm about to drown, I usually have my Navy family to hold on to, and I don't feel bad when I have to turn to them because I'm there for them, too. And you're the same with your blogosphere family. You give so much. Sometimes it's okay to let others do the giving. I hope these hard times end for you soon.

Sarah Pearson said...

I truly wish I could help you. I'm glad you have others around you who can. I hope that wonderful boy of yours feels better soon.

Candy Fite said...

Hi, Candy...it's Candy! I've just sent you an email requesting your snail mail...nice to have blog bounced and found you! Wishing you none other than my very best, heartfelt sentiments.

Jamie Burch said...

Ooh...my heart goes out to you. Wish I had a real magic wand to make it all better. Wishing, hoping and praying that it all gets better soon. You should keep this up a little longer so everyone gets a chance to help out if they can.

Much love,
~Jamie

TL Conway said...

I'm here through Matt's blog (Thanks, Matt!) and gladly donated. And then promptly became a new follower.

Thinking of you and your family. I wish you all the best.

Jessica Salyer said...

Found my way here from Matthew's blog. Stay strong, I wish you and your family the best. Sending you an e-mail now to get your e-mail. Also putting a link up on my blog. I don't have as my followers as Matt, but every little bit helps. :)

Melissa Bradley said...

I haven't been here to comment so often, but I have been following you for quite some time and I love your posts, just love them. I am sending positive thoughts and praying for you. You will get through. I have faced some very tough times this past year and my friends have really lent me a hand up. I am unemployed right now, but I can spread the word. Here is my email and I will try to find yours and get in touch. I might be able to send something, I just don't have PayPal anymore. melbwrites@gmail.com

Stay strong, my sister writer. Hugs!

Lydia Kang said...

Keep this post up, at least through the end of the weekend. I just blogged about it and I get a lot of readers over the weekend.

Hugs, m'dear.

L.G.Smith said...

Hiya Candace. Heard about your situation and had to come by. Smartest thing you ever did was start blogging and connecting with this fabulous group of people. Hope to get to know you more in the future. :))

L.G.Smith said...

Oh, yeah, the donation will read "Montoya", but that's me. :))

JL Stratton said...

You had me at "Rapper's Pants."

I don't know you. You don't know me, but I think it only right to help you, as you have surel helped others. Call it "paying it forward" or whatever but I'm donating.

I don't know why I'm so touched by your post. I don't usually give anything of myself for fear of Internet backlash (you know what I mean) but I just can't help it. You're a fellow writer, You're a Mom, You're a human being in trouble and reaching out ... and I know that's gotta be hard. In my eyes you're a hero(inne).

Zooks said...

Hey Candace, I don't know you but I know Lydia Kang from Query Tracker and she tweeted about your current situation. My heart goes out to you and your family. I lost my job in September so things are a bit tight right now, but I did send you something via PayPal. I read someone else suggested WIC and I can recommend it from personal experience. Would love for you to critique a query or MS of mine, but you've obviously got enough on your hands. Be well and strong. *hugs*

Rachele Alpine said...

Happy to help! You don't need to do anything in return, just spend more time with your sweet kids! :)

Rachele
www.freckle-head.blogspot.com

Susan Oloier said...

So sorry about your current situation. (((Hugs))) to you and yours. Not sure where you live, and you have a ton of responses, so someone may have already mentioned this: if you have a child with a medical disability as I do (not sure if that applies with your kiddo), there are options such as SSI and waiver programs (my son is on a waiver in our state, as we would go broke paying out-of-pocket for his medical expenses). Have you pursued these avenues. Believe it or not, there is a lot of help with local/state/federal agencies despite the economy. Just a thought. It's most definitely helped us.

Roslyn Ross said...

Americans should not be bankrupted by medical costs. All other developed nations can provide top quality medical care to all citizens free of charge or minimal cost.
In terms of the baby, try homeopathy. It can work with other methodologies and because it works on underlying causes and has no side effects it does no harm. It is slow but sure.

Janet Johnson said...

Done. And take care of that precious baby! Sending love and prayers, too. :)

Sharon K. Mayhew said...

Candace...you've been such a great bloggy friend. I'm pretty sure I have your address. I'll put something in the mail to you tomorrow. (((hugs)))

Melissa Ann Goodwin said...

Please send me your snail mail address. I hate paypal. But I want to help. lissaanngood@yahoo.com

lee said...

Hang in there, honey. It wasn't much, but I hope it helps.

~lr

Craig Edwards said...

I'm dropping in via my pal Melissa Bradley - I am happy to help out and please just pay it forward sometime when you're able.

Joanne Fritz said...

Found you through Lydia Kang and donated what I could.

Hugs to you. It WILL get better. Let us know.

Kristy Shen said...

Hi Candace,

I'm dropping by from Lydia's blog.

I'm so sorry about your current situation, and I really feel for you guys in the States because here in Canada, we are very lucky to have socialized health care.

As a fellow writer, I'm more than happy to help you out. God bless you and your family and hopefully everything will work out for you soon.

Bryce and Kristy

K. Turley (Clutzattack) said...

Referred by Lydia. Best wishes for you and your family and I hope things get better.

Eliza Tilton said...

Dropping by from Lydia's blog.

One thing that helped me was getting diapers on subscribe and save from Amazon.com. You sign up for the Mother discount (15%) and subscribe and save items are (15%). You can get a 100+pampers box for around $22.00. I saved soo much when I switched to that. You can also control when and how many shipments you get. If you need any other info email me elizafaith13@gmail.com

Also, gripe water. It helps with gas. Don't know if you tried that, yet. My prayers are with you and your family.

Amie Borst said...

so weird. i had left a message yesterday and it seems to have dissappeared today! crazy strange!

anyway, i sure hope things get better for you. definitely try the WIC - it really helps with the basics. and the reflux will be okay. my daughter used to soak her clothes - and mine - multiple times a day. it's rough while you're going through it, but it's actually quite common (though that's not much comfort when you're baby is suffering).

wishing you all the best!

Maynard Morrissey said...

Dropping by from Melissa's blog.

Donated a little, hope it helps a bit. I wish you, your baby and your husband all the best!!

Greetz,
Maynard aka Harald

K. M. Walton said...

Those 86 comments above this one are proof that humanity thrives in the blogging community.

Just stopping by to let you know that your heartbreaking situation touched me (and my sisters) and we've all sent you something through paypal.


Stay strong, Candace. Stay strong.

Lo Hughes said...

I came here via Lydia Kang's blog. Wishing you lots of strength and good wishes for 2012! I'm heading over to paypal right now.

Old Kitty said...

Hi! Came over from Lydia Kang's blog. Sorry about my miniscule donation! Hope it helps in a tiny way. Take care x
Jennifer D. aka Old Kitty!

Karen Lange said...

You are in my thoughts and prayers, Candace!

Laura said...

Hi Candy - Over from Talli's link - mine's not much, but I hope it helps a little - l.bambrey email from paypal. I'll post a link for you tomorrow at Daily Dodo - please keep this post up so we can continue to spread the word for you.

Love to you and your family
Laura xxx

Kelly Polark said...

You are loved, Candace. So happy to see the blogworld coming together to help one of their own.
:) xoxo

Riley said...

Got your blog post thru a mutual FB friend. Best of luck to you! :) Stay strong!!!

Jamie Wyman said...

You are totally loved.

RamblingWords said...

Sent a pittance it was what I had to send. Good luck.

Christine Fonseca said...

Hugs! Just giving you some extra love. So sorry for everything you are going through.

Julie said...

ONE HUNDRED!! ;) <3

Matthew MacNish said...

101! Woot. Wasabi, my ninja?

Hart Johnson said...

My own finances are in the toilet, but I did give a shout on FB, so hopefully some of my friends have better potential. I really wish you the best and hope time flies until the first paycheck and refund can get you back on track!

Marilyn Almodóvar said...

I saw the RT by Amanda Marie from a tweet by Linda. I've been touched by your story and I have made a contribution. I'll be posting a link on my blog and RTing this again.

Blessed be

Teresa Cypher aka T K CypherBuss said...

Please send me your snail-mail address. I have never read your blog before today...found my way here through Hart's ^ post on fb. I went through a 10 month stretch-- out of work last year. It was tough, but life keeps moving forward. Today I am sending you a virtual hug along with an "It will be okay." Will send what I can via snail mail. I so wish 2012 brings an easing of your financial challenges. Hug those beautiful children!

RaShelle Workman said...

Don't know if you've tried Nutramigen (probably), but my first had serious issues with formula and this was the one that worked. After that it was goats milk fresh from a goat farm, but I won't go there.

Krista said...

I came here from FB. I only had a small amount to give but I hope every little bit helps. Lots of love and hugs.

Rebecca Emin said...

Thinking of you all. I am a parent and I know how hard it is at the best of times, but when they are sick... well I feel for you so much and I hope your little boy grows to be a strong and healthy man. Lots of love. xx

Jessica Bell said...

Honey, I'm so sorry. As soon as I get my pay check this month I'll send you some funds. Love you lots, and keep your head up. Everybody loves you and cares for you. And so do I. I know I've been absent for a while, but life had been a huge kick in the butt for me lately. Thinking of you, and will send you some money as soon as i can. Love you xoxo

Tracy Jo said...

Done! I don't have much but gave a little. I am so sorry you are going through this. I am a new follower and saw your blog through Jessica, Glynis and Matthew on FAcebook. Social networking rocks! Sending you positive thoughts.

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kathrynmagendie said...

Jessica and Glynis posted your link on facebook - and as Tracy wrote - SN is a wonderful supportive place. And Jessica has said what a wonderful person you are and in answer to my question "is she/this the real deal?" she has said you certainly are . . . I'm sorry things are so difficult right now, and how brave of you to post this . . .

Glynis said...

We have all been through hard times. May my small drop in the ocean bring you a smile, sweetheart. x

Dorothy Dreyer said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, and I'm spreading the word. Wish I could do more for you from across the ocean. Hang in there!

Rusty Fischer said...

Saw Dorothy Dreyer's tweet about this and realized I'd just gotten my advance from Noble YA Publishing sent to Paypal; it's yours and only wish I could have added more zeros to it! Someday, and best to you in 2012!!!

Natalie Aguirre said...

So sorry for your difficult time. I'm doing what I can to help. I hope things get better for you soon.

Natalie Aguirre said...

So sorry for your difficult time. I'm doing what I can to help. I hope things get better for you soon.

Medeia Sharif said...

I saw this link via FB and Twitter and stopped by to read, follow, and donate. I'm so sorry you're going through all this and I hope things turn around this year.

Theresa Milstein said...

I'm glad you extended this because I missed it within the first 48 hours.

I wish you and your family the best. xo

Lola Sharp said...

Oh, Candy, I'm sorry I'm sooo late to this...I've been busy and not making the blog rounds very well (and I haven't see you around in a long time either). I'm so sorry you are going through such hard times. *squeezy hugs*

Email me your address and I'll send you some money right away. <3

I hope you and your family have a much better 2012.

Love,
Lola

Kristin Rae said...

I'm a long time follower of your blog, but I'm not the best at making the blog rounds, so I'm glad I saw Hilary post this on FB. My heart goes out to your family. Headed to PayPal right away!

jenny milchman said...

I'm so sorry to hear of your troubles! Very glad for Baby S's resurrection--but how hard it is to be parent a newborn, any newborn--then when you add the issues in...

I'm going to try to donate--PayPal hates me too--but I wanted to make a further offer. I'm just a little ahead of you I think in the publishing game--just sold my debut novel after 11 years spent trying to break in--and I teach writing and publishing. If you'd like to offer an hour's free coaching and advice, I would be happy to donate that. (The normal rate seems to be $100-$150/hour so--whatever you think). The writer can discuss his or her publication journey so far, ask for resources, contacts, or discuss a work-in-progress--anything. I'd really be happy to help, so if this seems an inane offer, but something else occurs to you--please just ask.

And best of luck to you and yours. Things will get better. They have to.

M.P. McDonald said...

So sorry to hear you're going through such a hard time. My books have been doing well lately, so I thought I'd pay it forward by sending a donation through Paypal. (through my aol email addy which begins with Mary. Don't want to post it here as I keep it separate from my writing one.)

Becca Puglisi said...

Hi, Candy. Found you through Matthew McNish. My two toddlers both have a stomach virus right now, and even with that, I can't begin to imagine what you're going through. We writing moms have to stick together, so I sent you a little something (abpug). When you're able, I'd love a critique of my novel opening. Trying to figure out which of two ways to start it.

Hang in there.

Li said...

Done. (The paypal button was a help.) Nor do I want anything in return. Keep your chins up and best wishes.

Li said...

Forgot to add I'll also tweet this out to my followers :-)

Jenny said...

You are so brave to face these problems with humility and love! Have sent you an email and will help however I can. We have ALL been there and I am praying for your whole family, that things improve sooner than soon! Love from Jenny @ The Modest Peacock.

Caitlin said...

This is my first time stopping by after finding your blog through another post. You are a strong woman to stand up to ask for the help that your family needs. As someone else mentioned, have you looked into WIC? We had to use it for a few months while we were getting back onto our feet last year.

If you will, please e-mail me your address and the size diapers (and if he is sensitive to a certain brand) that your son wears :) My e-mail is caitlinblane(at)gmail.com

Trisha said...

I saw Laura's (Daily Dodo) post about this and came by - sent you a small amount, sorry I can't do more.

kimmullican.com said...

Donated, blogged, tweeted and facebooked. Prayers to you and your family!

Leslie Rose said...

Thank you for asking. I'm happy to give and all I ask in return is for you to snuggle your kids. You are in my thoughts and prayers. xo

Chris Phillips said...

Know how you feel. Hope things turn around soon.

Sue H said...

My son was a tricky feeder - refused 'me' and it would take 40mins to get 3oz formula into him before he brought it all back up within the hour. He was always crying and
'health professionals' just told me to keep trying! :-/

By thd time ge was 11 weeks he was a sickly and miserable infant. Luckily, a wise, older, neighbour said to try him on barley water (boil up some barley, strain off the water into a bottle and feed him that) - he took it readily and didn't throw up - so with a combination of that and runny baby rice he never looked back.

2 years later a new doctor determined he was lactose
intolerant! Once he avoided milk products he was fine - now a strapping 25yr old!

Might be worth seeing if your boy has any food intolerance - my son was able to return to a full diet within three years, his digestive system just needed to mature, they said!

Hope all goes well, whatever approach you take!

Ellen Brickley said...

Came here via Laura at Daily Dodo. Hope things look up for you and your family, sent a small donation. Take care x

JJ Toner said...

Hilary Wagner alerted me, via FB. Small donation paypal'ed. Those doctors you're dealing with need a swift kick imo

Matthew MacNish said...

Chuck is the man, people. His eyes on your work is worth a lot more than 40 bucks. Just sayin.

Jonathon Arntson said...

First of all, *HUGS*

Second of all, I'd donate, but my account is negative (it's always been a pessimist). So, I am making you a promise. I am a server at a diner. I will donate to you 5% of all the tips I make this week. Consider yourself my hostess.

You're a brave woman to come out with it all, and it's motivating me to get my ass in gear in my own life. So, in a sense, I am simply paying you back.

Nikki said...

(((HUGS))) I think everyone else has said it all. I simply adore this community and everyone who has provided you with support, and I'm happy to be a part of it.

Lydia Kang said...

$40 is steal for that kind of professional eye! Thank you Chuck!

Christina Lee said...

Hey you! Donated to you last week and am tweeting this today. Hope you're hanging in there and feel HOPE!

farawayeyes said...

I have such a dark picture of humanity, but the response here gives me pause to reflect. May you open that PayPal account and see a million bucks.

Colene Murphy said...

Oh Candace! I'm so sorry! (sorry to be late to reading this too!) I can't imagine how stressful that all is. Send me your snail mail? (paypal and me...we don't get along) Have you tried goats milk with Sully instead of formula?

Katie Anderson said...

Money and prayers sent. Hang in there, girl!

C D Meetens said...

Found your post due to Laura at Daily Dodo. So sorry to hear about this. I haven't sent much, but I hope it will help you and your family.

M Pax said...

Melissa Bradley sent me. E-mail me your address, and I'll help. Been in that situation moneywise. It's no fun.

mpaxauthor[at]gmail[dot]com

LD Masterson said...

Lydia sent me. I sent a little help via PayPal. Good luck and God bless.

cindyvoldseth said...

I'm a mother of 2
Email me, while I go share this post :D
cindyvoldseth(at)yahoo(dot)com

Aris Whittier said...

I just sent you a email. I wish you and your family the best! I think 2012 is going to be a good year for you. Hang in there!

Sue Ganz-Schmitt said...

Hello! Just saw your post from Literary Rambles this morning. I hope that things are going better. A donation has been made (through my husband Martin's account). Here is to a great year for you and your family. Clearly you have much love and support around you to pull you through!

Gina Blechman said...

Unfortunately, I don't have money to donate to you, I've found myself in a bit of a financial pickle at the moment, but I truly hope that you can find your way out of it. Good luck to your family. I know that asking for money is hard, and sometimes receiving it can seem even harder, but just know that you deserve it. God bless.

<3 Gina Blechman

Matthew MacNish said...

150 beaches.

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