tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post4156335724772147815..comments2023-07-20T09:10:25.850-07:00Comments on The Misadventures In Candyland: A drop of memory births the story of meCandylandhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08956196611348299424noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-88705327678784652072011-01-05T05:04:55.541-08:002011-01-05T05:04:55.541-08:00I think it's normal to not feel the fight at t...I think it's normal to not feel the fight at times. But it will return. Writing the story of you sounds like a good idea - a way to find closure/healing...etc.Laura Paulinghttp://www.laurapauling.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-70619867544555622122011-01-05T04:55:50.966-08:002011-01-05T04:55:50.966-08:00Hi Candace. I found your blog through our mutual ...Hi Candace. I found your blog through our mutual blogger friend, Lenny. I'm sorry for what you are going through right now. Stay strong, stay positive.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-82247243938271182672011-01-05T04:36:03.394-08:002011-01-05T04:36:03.394-08:00I know this is a hard time for you and I pray. I p...I know this is a hard time for you and I pray. I pray that things will turn for the better for you. I know in my heart they will. It's weird what life throws at us and I sometimes wonder...why. To make us stronger, to see if we can survive? I dunno. I wish I did.<br />I'm thinking of you and if you need anything please email me <br />christine(dot)danek(at)verizon(dot)net. <br /><br />(hugs) Take Care,<br />ChristineChristine Danekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00979611961825725350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-85459741157467590892011-01-05T04:27:09.679-08:002011-01-05T04:27:09.679-08:00I just came over from Jessica's blog. I hope ...I just came over from Jessica's blog. I hope that in some small way the blog love you receive helps somewhat. And I hope you have a bunch of in-person friends and family to rely on now. Take care.<br /><br />If I can help in any way, please e-mail tmilstein at gmail dot com.Theresa Milsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03477761307315565259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-83837520713483116482011-01-05T04:23:08.737-08:002011-01-05T04:23:08.737-08:00I know the low times too. Sometimes I go through s...I know the low times too. Sometimes I go through stages where I think of giving up writing every day. But I don't because I love it.<br /><br />Yes, there are sad things in life like not getting pregnant (I couldn't at all and adopted) and loss of love ones (I lost my dad and my younger sister), but life goes on and we all have wonderful other parts of it to sustain us. Though we may go through it differently because of the hard things in our life. Hang in there.Natalie Aguirrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03756087804171246660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-5824457929371931242011-01-05T04:16:54.270-08:002011-01-05T04:16:54.270-08:00From the posts I've seen across the internet, ...From the posts I've seen across the internet, you have a lot of friends and supporters, Candace.Alex J. Cavanaughhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09770065693345181702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-14938310209834036832011-01-05T03:55:17.688-08:002011-01-05T03:55:17.688-08:00I am so sorry to hear your devastating news, Candy...I am so sorry to hear your devastating news, Candyland. Please don't stop trying to make another baby, because when you do, that baby will be so blessed and loved. Big hugs to you and your family!Susan Fieldshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02433408456603462774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-20987718998978965862011-01-05T01:41:59.131-08:002011-01-05T01:41:59.131-08:00I am so very sorry for everything you have gone th...I am so very sorry for everything you have gone through and the way you are feeling right now. I hope that time will make things easier to cope with and I hope that happier times are ahead for you.Rebecca Eminhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01931904595437049369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-13922129961641450932011-01-05T01:25:24.545-08:002011-01-05T01:25:24.545-08:00Hey Candy! I am so sorry for your loss. I've h...Hey Candy! I am so sorry for your loss. I've had many girlfriends who've miscarried and I know how hard it is. ((Big Hugs))<br />I admire your strength and determination so much. Your blog is such a beacon of light for us--just know we're all here to support you and cheer you on.<br />This too shall pass...PK HREZOhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11650153097981426833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-30975928023616679522011-01-04T23:46:12.093-08:002011-01-04T23:46:12.093-08:00I've come over from Jen Daiker's and you g...I've come over from Jen Daiker's and you got a beautiful blog going here, Candyland.<br />I'm thinking of you and praying.Bidishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17382938442171208326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-90466923328797810182011-01-04T22:36:14.529-08:002011-01-04T22:36:14.529-08:00Hi Candace,
What an amazing person you are. I see ...Hi Candace,<br />What an amazing person you are. I see that I have been a Follower for awhile, but have not stopped by. I apologize for that. I'll be visiting more frequently, from now on.<br /><br />I jus' want you to know how impressed I am that you are using your moment (yes, I realize it is much more than a moment) of frustration to build hope for others. I am soooo proud of you.<br /><br />Hang in there. I'll keep you in my prayers.<br /><br /><b><i>{{{{{ H - U - G - S }}}}}</i></b><br /> ~ YayaYaya' s Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10766073744832801633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-84408157386289769762011-01-04T19:18:02.485-08:002011-01-04T19:18:02.485-08:00Start by believing that it can happen, because rea...Start by believing that it can happen, because really, anything <i>can</i> happen. Then, maybe one day you'll find reason to believe it <i>will</i> happen.<br /><br />And on the days when belief seems too difficult, remember that there may not always be reason to believe, but there is always reason to hope.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing your pictures! I love the one of you and hubs on the bench :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-61580861429295214902011-01-04T16:30:17.732-08:002011-01-04T16:30:17.732-08:00My best friend said something to me this past year...My best friend said something to me this past year that I remember many times, every single day. He said basically, 'sometimes, the hardest thing is the fight just to fight'.<br /><br />It's nothing anyone else can do for you and there is no emotional fast-forward button for grief. People will try to be helpful and tell you to chin up, it'll all work out, etc. etc. all the while we know that sometimes, things don't always work out.<br /><br />Jessica said it brilliantly- loss of this magnitude is not something that leaves you when you feel as deeply as you feel everything. Some people have the ability to 'get over' almost anything. I' not one of those people, and those losses changed me. Time heals nothing if you don't use it, and that seems to me to be what you're doing. You're feeling your feelings- and that's very important. It may make some people uncomfortable but those who have experienced traumatic loss too will understand, and allow you the freedom go mourn in your way.<br /><br />My best friend also said something else to me that stays, "If you need to cry, cry, and damn the rest of the world's need to feel comfortable." <br /><br />Situations like this can sometimes expose that a few friendships may not be as deep as you thought- but the ones you keep will mean the world to you.<br /><br />Sorry to have gone on so long- just wanted you to know that it's okay. Be beautiful you- just do your best right now to fight to find your fight again. <br /><br />You know where to find me...<br />xoxo<br />~bruFebruary Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01078037856070486022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-14147379530331868042011-01-04T14:35:40.822-08:002011-01-04T14:35:40.822-08:00You didn't lie. Just because you don't fe...You didn't lie. Just because you don't feel like any of that will come true doesn't mean it won't. Lemme tell you something- Right now, you don't have to believe in yourself if you don't want to. It's not a magic key. Sometimes I feel like if I don't stay positive and tell myself 'I can do it', than no one else will and I won't ever succeed, like belief alone is a wand that will bring about my deepest desires. Maybe in some cases, that works. But you've got so many people thinking of you right now. And there's power in that too. We believe in you. So go ahead and take a break from optimism if you must. It won't make or break anything. And when you're ready, I know you'll get back up and find a little more hope at the bottom of the bag. Maybe all of our prayers and thoughts will help replenish your stock! At least I hope so!Creepy Query Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18115161057496086972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-81324210770945880422011-01-04T14:23:29.056-08:002011-01-04T14:23:29.056-08:00*hug*
What I love about you so much is that you&#...*hug*<br /><br />What I love about you so much is that you're real. You're fun-loving and crazy and quirky and yet down-to-earth too. We all have our good days and our bad days, and we're all here for you, good bad or in-between.Nicole Zoltackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07464800543376449290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-80664081064014075482011-01-04T12:22:19.968-08:002011-01-04T12:22:19.968-08:00I've been thinking about you all day. I keep t...I've been thinking about you all day. I keep trying to come up with something really profound to say, but I don't know, life just sucks so bad sometimes. And there's really nothing to do but just gut it out. An hour at a time, or a minute, whatever. But if the support of friends, family, and total strangers help, then you've got it made girl, cause you've got love comin' from all over the world. <br /><br />In fact, I think you're the George Bailey of the blogging world. (If you haven't seen It's a Wonderful Life lately you should.)Melissa Gillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02700191547004665402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-64121477517391098772011-01-04T12:12:57.084-08:002011-01-04T12:12:57.084-08:00I'm exactly like you. I'll say something s...I'm exactly like you. I'll say something so from heart, just revealing all, and then feel so guilty about it that I go back and delete it. It's an awful feeling, especialy when the reality is some people won't like you for baring all.<br /><br />But you can get through this. and lying to ourselves is sometimes crucial for survival.Tamara Hart Heinerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07562765111202443160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-11230609417395215962011-01-04T12:10:48.108-08:002011-01-04T12:10:48.108-08:00*hugs* It's okay to give the fighting a rest n...*hugs* It's okay to give the fighting a rest now and then. Sometimes if we stop bashing ourselves against the grief, if we just allow it to wash over us quietly, then it passes without doing as much damage to our psyche. <br /><br />Grief is as much a part of the human condition as joy is. It's part of what makes us US. I wouldn't be the me I am without the grief I've experienced. While I sure wouldn't choose to go through any of it again, neither would I take it out of my soul. <br /><br />May your grief recede soon, leaving you open to the joy I know is there within you too.Linda G.https://www.blogger.com/profile/04576828490765434497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-37478136058812446762011-01-04T12:00:25.557-08:002011-01-04T12:00:25.557-08:00Those pictures say a lot, don't they? Thanks f...Those pictures say a lot, don't they? Thanks for sharing them with us, Candace. Whether you think you pour your heart out for you or for us, it doesn't matter. What matters is that you ARE pouring your heart out, rather than sucking it up and bursting from the pain and pressure of it all. You are one of the strongest people I've "met". Hang on, Candace. We're here. We love you. And we'll hold you up until you feel strong enough to do it on your own.Shannon O'Donnellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17299313309059235876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-7793767272530278762011-01-04T11:04:57.785-08:002011-01-04T11:04:57.785-08:00Sometimes when I get really sad...I flip on the Je...Sometimes when I get really sad...I flip on the Jersey Shore. I can only watch about five minutes of it, for obvious reasons, but sometimes it actually gives me hope. I look at these kids and think "If a bunch of slacker kids from the East Coast can have their own TV show, book deals, and other endorsements then why can't I?"<br /><br />Life does suck...trust me I've been the punching bag all of my life and even when you don't have the fight and even when you just want to scream "NO MAS!" there will always be more. There is always hope.Maganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14045036129073244749noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-10836163192947086892011-01-04T10:53:06.940-08:002011-01-04T10:53:06.940-08:00Beautiful pictures.
I know you're down and ou...Beautiful pictures. <br />I know you're down and out of fight and that is okay. Nothing WRONG with that. Can't fight all the time. But I do wish and pray that you will keep your hope alive. Hope for all the things you want, even if you don't feel like you will have it now. Hope for your own peace and happiness because that will come. In some form or another, happiness will come around again. It always does. You are loved, Candace. From all over the world from people you have never "met" you are loved.Colene Murphyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06086195075690893194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-13437933600471150742011-01-04T10:26:21.552-08:002011-01-04T10:26:21.552-08:00Sorry for your pain and sadness. My heart goes out...Sorry for your pain and sadness. My heart goes out to you. Wishing, hoping, and praying that you begin to feel better soon. Sending big hugs and postitive thoughts your way.Lunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08284738955789123035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-76642464096753733022011-01-04T10:09:07.914-08:002011-01-04T10:09:07.914-08:00Man, I've been gone for a long time. But girl,...Man, I've been gone for a long time. But girl, you have more fight than anyone I know. Take that to the bank. *hugs*Elana Johnsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05877856005992028912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-2881134276004561232011-01-04T08:18:33.662-08:002011-01-04T08:18:33.662-08:00My mantra in life is "This, too, shall pass&q...My mantra in life is "This, too, shall pass". So whenever bad things happen, or i'm sad or filled with anxiety or whatever, i just tell myself that it will pass. Not even stone lasts forever.<br />And when things are good, i tell myself the same thing - so i can try as possible to enjoy the good while it lastsSarah Ahiershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02795455714801965956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-90597225192549851532011-01-04T07:43:13.411-08:002011-01-04T07:43:13.411-08:00I'm also praying for you. It's been over ...I'm also praying for you. It's been over 20 years since my father died and it is still difficult to think about, but at the end of the day you realize the pain of the loss means you haven't forgotten, and that is a good thing. Those were great pictures. Keep strong.Chris Phillipshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02638226375639228988noreply@blogger.com