tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post6119445932139758264..comments2023-07-20T09:10:25.850-07:00Comments on The Misadventures In Candyland: Trust your gut or be damnedCandylandhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08956196611348299424noreply@blogger.comBlogger68125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-65195938907296675422011-07-22T11:39:30.433-07:002011-07-22T11:39:30.433-07:00Oh man! Candace, I can't believe how crazy tha...Oh man! Candace, I can't believe how crazy that is. I'm so glad you followed your gut in the end, but ooof, these stories are scary. I hope I have it in me to trust my gut when the time comes.<br /><br />But thanks so much for sharing! It is good for us to know, so we can be better prepared. You are awesome, and I'm still rooting for your book. It sounds totally awesome!Janet Johnsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12688012956157161889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-56684537752194772942011-06-24T11:52:48.555-07:002011-06-24T11:52:48.555-07:00I cannot believe someone would do that! Why bother...I cannot believe someone would do that! Why bother getting into agenting if you are never going to do the work? Why read manuscripts and offer revisions when you don't ever plan to submit?<br /><br />I am so happy you got out when you did and I feel so terrible for the clients who didn't :-/ I hope the best for each and every one of you!Mismikadohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08916889581112274719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-71061986122512687942011-06-24T07:03:57.527-07:002011-06-24T07:03:57.527-07:00Who does a girl have to ball to get to 100?Who does a girl have to ball to get to 100?Matthew MacNishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03264738483763244969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-50396627396672542622011-06-19T21:10:30.966-07:002011-06-19T21:10:30.966-07:00Also, keep at it, no matter how much this incident...Also, keep at it, no matter how much this incident hurt. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-18168803112280025662011-06-19T21:09:42.701-07:002011-06-19T21:09:42.701-07:00Something similar happened to me. It was gut-wrenc...Something similar happened to me. It was gut-wrenching to feel ignored and not have my manuscript subbed when I thought it was. Even when I terminated the contract via snail mail, I got no reaction which--on top of everything else--spoke volumes about the agent's professionalism.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-80871527774979716562011-06-17T07:53:14.315-07:002011-06-17T07:53:14.315-07:00Sitty Fiffzle.Sitty Fiffzle.Matthew MacNishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03264738483763244969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-63370495684674004942011-06-17T07:45:55.491-07:002011-06-17T07:45:55.491-07:00Oh my gosh, I can't even believe that. That...Oh my gosh, I can't even believe that. That's horrible. So sorry for you. But you seem to have an awful lot of courage, good for you. Yes, trust the gut, even if it's telling you something you don't want to hear. A hard lesson to learn, but true.Crystal Cookhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06665844725894074136noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-80394539503046462832011-06-15T19:44:48.854-07:002011-06-15T19:44:48.854-07:00Thanks so much for sharing this information with u...Thanks so much for sharing this information with us because I can be naive about such things. Honestly, I don't know what I would have done. I'm glad you made the tough choice for you AND your story. You'll get there, Candy.Julie Musilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02150454913885915017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-79189226681775481292011-06-15T13:13:53.922-07:002011-06-15T13:13:53.922-07:00I'm really sorry to hear about your experience...I'm really sorry to hear about your experience with that agent! You did the right thing. <br /><br />I've learned through hard experience over the years to trust my instincts, and what you've said here reinforces that. <br /><br />Thank you for relating this difficult experience. It's a reality check that's worth listening to. <br /><br />I hope you'll find the right agent soon. They're out there somewhere, so it will happen.Tony Bensonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06798586432645889182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-24444640522735136432011-06-15T11:48:46.041-07:002011-06-15T11:48:46.041-07:00I'm so sorry, Candace. I had realized when I f...I'm so sorry, Candace. I had realized when I found out you had an agent I was like, "when did that happen? I totally missed some big post." For her to say that to you was horrible, along with everything else she did to you and the other clients. Messing with your dreams like that is just...unspeakable. I'm so glad you followed your gut. Sometimes the hardest choices are the best. You WILL find that agent perfect for you. You're a fabulous writer, Candy.Rose Cooperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11848631652522951216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-33350104975559766882011-06-15T11:05:03.607-07:002011-06-15T11:05:03.607-07:00Sorry I'm late to this Candace, I've been ...Sorry I'm late to this Candace, I've been on a bit of a blogging hiatus lately and saw the link to this on Fb. I'm glad you were able to tell your story, so we can all be super sure of what to do if it ever happens to us. It'll happen again- you had several interested before, so you know you're great! You'll find that perfect agent and I hope everything clicks for you!Abby Minardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11963640263845561309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-50534876645796851672011-06-15T09:50:41.369-07:002011-06-15T09:50:41.369-07:00Thanks so much for sharing this story. I've ju...Thanks so much for sharing this story. I've just starting querying and have decided not to cast my net wide, but rather on who I get a "good feeling" from. It may take much longer than I'd like, but I believe in trusting my instincts. Although I'm sorry the agent was a disappointment but I'm happy you realized it and have learned from it. Here's to much success finding the "right" agent. Trust your gut again, it'll happen!Elena DeRosahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11070488432007287857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-76860438715231575552011-06-15T09:13:20.263-07:002011-06-15T09:13:20.263-07:00good for you. and i hope you keep working on your ...good for you. and i hope you keep working on your story to get it out there.Michelle Gregoryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05747275507200268417noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-18064373144488516122011-06-15T09:08:54.499-07:002011-06-15T09:08:54.499-07:00Candy, I'm so sorry this happened to you. I...Candy, I'm so sorry this happened to you. I've had other writer friends have the same thing happen to them. And like everyone else said already, you will find that perfect agent. Here's to you for posting this. You are helping lots of other writers more than you know!<br /><br />xoxo -- HilaryHilary Wagnerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18199287020561210673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-30887844971483420472011-06-15T08:59:06.890-07:002011-06-15T08:59:06.890-07:00I am so sorry you had to go through that. You are ...I am so sorry you had to go through that. You are so brave to share your story. Having the wrong agent is definitely worse than having no agent. I truly hope you find the right agent very, very soon.Sara B. Larsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14213313028658810705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-66355303564030239362011-06-15T08:29:51.849-07:002011-06-15T08:29:51.849-07:00Candy, thank you so much for sharing this story. ...Candy, thank you so much for sharing this story. We writers need to know these horror stories. We feel like the agents are doing us a favor. Though I've heard it time and time again to make sure we're getting what we want out of the relationship too, I don't know if I'd be strong enough in a similar situation.<br /><br />I hope you find the perfect agent and soon. xoTheresa Milsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03477761307315565259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-75503960638041030922011-06-15T08:09:20.004-07:002011-06-15T08:09:20.004-07:00I'm sorry you had to deal with this, but am th...I'm sorry you had to deal with this, but am thankful that you are sharing your story. Sometimes, we get so caught up in the excitement of possibly fulfilling out dreams that we skip over scrutinizing the people who have promised us those dreams. Thanks again.<br /><br /><3 Gina BlechmanG Blechmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16707186693109337726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-73002637081954137782011-06-15T07:00:56.337-07:002011-06-15T07:00:56.337-07:00Wow. You were brave and right to terminate your co...Wow. You were brave and right to terminate your contract.<br />That is an awful situation, and I'm glad you did what was right for you. <br />I hate people who don't honour their commitments, and not subbing people was just not cool.<br />You should always trust your gut instinct. It knows the right wayMairead.https://www.blogger.com/profile/05192321117160840212noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-76849378365057674172011-06-15T06:52:30.045-07:002011-06-15T06:52:30.045-07:00I think I know who you're talking about and le...I think I know who you're talking about and let me say I am so sorry you got caught up in all that. I'm so happy you listened to your gut! It is unfortunate, but at the same time it was an experience and it did teach you something, and now you move forward with your eyes open wide and your heart and mind in tune with what your strongest needs are. I hope you find the perfect match!<br /><br />I've left an agent before, and so I know it is so hard and there is such a tumult of emotions and second guessing that leads up to it. But once you make the move to terminate, it's always the right decision if questions and worries went unanswered and communication got you no where. <br /><br />Hugs to you! Again, sorry about this, but you can and will make it--of this I have NO DOUBT! Keep on striving!:)<br /><br />Angela @ The Bookshelf MuseAngela Ackermanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01808259088625142389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-26363746408570510222011-06-15T06:39:12.336-07:002011-06-15T06:39:12.336-07:00I'm so sorry that happened to you. I'm a b...I'm so sorry that happened to you. I'm a big believer in following my gut in all areas of life. I can't believe the agent wanted you to keep the news to yourself--that's like a guy marrying you, but asking you not to tell anyone! You'll find the right person and you'll be the stronger for it--good luck. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05255908019822363456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-30598337748694051012011-06-15T05:56:40.739-07:002011-06-15T05:56:40.739-07:00Blogger ate my comment. I am so sorry about this s...Blogger ate my comment. I am so sorry about this situation. I've been hearing stories like this more and more and it's terrible. You did the right thing, and even though it sucks, you are a stronger (and extremely braver) person. I know things will be better and you will dominate the writing world.Christine Danekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00979611961825725350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-47236657968526269362011-06-15T05:54:28.953-07:002011-06-15T05:54:28.953-07:00I thought I left a comment on this post already?!?...I thought I left a comment on this post already?!?<br /><br />I've been Internet chatting with you for a couple of years now so in my mind Candace = really good friend. This whole situation is incredibly infuriating. I think you handled everything just the way you should have, and I think it's what I would have done too. <br /><br />I'm grateful so many of our blogging buddies have shown their support. We all love you! (hugs)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01737620211363427992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-65996456753225264682011-06-15T05:33:15.263-07:002011-06-15T05:33:15.263-07:0047? Where is everyone?47? Where is everyone?Matthew MacNishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03264738483763244969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-30824487360513603322011-06-14T21:12:28.105-07:002011-06-14T21:12:28.105-07:00I still can't believe this story. I mean, I co...I still can't believe this story. I mean, I consider myself educated on the industry, and I think I know how to spot a fraudulent agent, but it doesn't seem like she showed those signs. <br /><br />Scary. <br /><br />Glad you made it through though.Claire Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14354840714847021685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1880052565931746299.post-7857794588184663752011-06-14T17:03:01.649-07:002011-06-14T17:03:01.649-07:00It makes me so sad to hear this, and I HATE that t...It makes me so sad to hear this, and I HATE that this happened to you. But I am so proud of you for being brave enough to share this -- your story will hopefully spare others from having to go through the same thing. The lesson here is to always trust your gut, and in the end, you did. There is a fantastic agent out there just waiting to sign you. Keep on keeping on! Big fat hug to you.Jennifer Hillierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15783975547643539868noreply@blogger.com